事实

看费曼的书，总是震惊于他思路清晰。但是就像花菜说的，思路清晰是因为以前想过。

关于事实。

费曼说，the more i find out, the better it is. 对他来说，永远不会有『还不如不知道』的事情。无论是真是假，事实永远在那儿，不会因为你不知道就消失。如果明明可以了解，并作出相应决定的事情，却装作不知道，或者故意不去了解，那到头来对目的造成的损害，一定比没有更糟糕。

『One thing Richard did, which was probably the hardest, was to be always scrupulously honest with himself. When Richard was bad at something he would say, "I'm bad at that." Or when he wasn't making progress on a problem he'd say, "I'm not making progress." When he came up with a stupid solution to something he'd say, "You know, that's a pretty stupid solution I've come up with." So he wouldn't fool himself into thinking a situation was better than it was, or worse than it was. He would just say, "Okay, these are the facts. It's going to be like this." He wasn't afraid of the facts, and he loved reality, I guess.』

sam harris 在lying里举的例子就是，妈妈得了癌症，结果全家人都瞒着她。妈妈自己知道自己得了癌症，以为自己在瞒全家人。双方都假装一切正常，生的病只是小问题。直到她过世。失去了多少以现实为基础的交流机会。

还有之前看的临终关怀的那本书，全书基本都是，人们因为害怕面对亲人即将死亡的事实，所以根本去不讨论死亡的可能性。以至于到头来，根本不顾病人想要怎样的临终，只想拼命把对方的生命拖延下去。拖延出的痛苦，不曾有过的对话。

今天看的另一本书，说亲密关系的，也提到同样的话题，说关系里大部分问题都是因为我们用自我定义把自己框死了。我们觉得，男朋友就应该什么样，女朋友就应该怎样怎样，然后拒绝接受现实。

『my interest in science is to simply find out more about the world, and the more I find out, the better it is. I like to find out.』

无论现实如何，越接受现实越好。